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Trusting others to do what you cannot, yet need to have done, is seemingly easy until you have been disappointed in having done so in the past and been misled.
However, if this week of events has taught me anything, it is to refuse to give up on trusting others so long as they are not the ones who have deceived, hurt or intentionally manipulated you in the past.
Sunday evening at our reading group's first gathering since the pandemic arrived, one of my friends offered to help me replace my porch lights, something (as I shared a few weeks previously in this newsletter), I discovered I would not be able to do myself. Initially, I extended my thanks, but said no, no, no, I couldn't ask you do that, as
in my mind it was a difficult and timely task. He persisted. Two days later, this handy-man that built his own house I later learned, had installed my five porch lights, and to say I was delighted and gushing in gratitude is an understatement.
Jump ahead two days, and Oscar is having a planned surgery to remove a few growths, something I have been hesitant for far too long to do, and the vet I finally realized I could trust (as he handled Norman's surgery last fall phenomenonally) without hesitation, removed and cared for my elderly gentleman returning him to my care by day's
end growths gone. To say I was breathing easy last evening, again, to state the obvious, is an understatement.
Trust. Trust in individuals who's knowledge exceeds ours in particular fields by ginormous proportions is something we want to do, but something we may be reluctant to do if others in their same position have let us down in the past. However, with due diligence, looking to others we do trust to recommend someone in the field
about which we are inquiring or spending time with the person for extended periods of time as I had my friend and knew of his vast intelligence and integrity to only say what he knew to be true, just not in home-building, can help us to rebuild the trust we absolutely need in our lives to build confidence in the community we live in - and yes, so that our lives can grow enabling us to pass forward in the same manner reasons for someone's trust in us to be
warranted.
Being hurt along our journey need not be a regret in our decision-making. In so many instances, these hurts can teach us how to make better decisions, how to access risk worth taking and risk worth avoiding. Hurts are road signs alerting us to obstacles of what could happen when we don't abide by something within us that has not been
fine-tuned, but the good news, we can polish these tools of inquiry, of patience, and of doing the work before hand to ask the right questions so that we do make the best decision that will leave us breathing easier as we go to sleep each night.
Speaking of nights, the shortest night of the year is about to arrive on June 20th (depending upon where you live in the world, it could fall on June 21st or 22nd) in the northern hemisphere which matter-of-factly means the longest day is about to be enjoyed. June is such a gorgeous month in Oregon, and waking up with the sunshine already
streaming through the windows are some of my favorite mornings of the year.
Here in the states this weekend, we are celebrating Father's Day, and I couldn't be more thankful for my own dad, my dogs' grandpa, someone who has modeled so many qualities that I am thankful to have learned, one of which is be able to trust people who have demonstrated themselves worth giving our trust even when we cannot fathom how they
will be able to follow through on promises that seem impossible to the neophyte.
Before I wrap up today, I want to let you know as a weekly newsletter subscriber, the gradual transition to monthly deliveries will begin next week, as during the summer months, I will be sending out a bi-weekly newsletter (in other words, every other Friday you will receive a newsletter that will contain all of the posts
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happening and what projects I am focusing on moving forward for TSLL.)
Thank you for choosing to subscribe, and I hope the changing of the seasons finds you shifting in a positive direct in any number of areas in your life. Until next week, I will see you on the
blog.
